Welcome to the Adult Adoptees Support Forum

Adult Adoptees Support forum is an adoptee-centered support forum. This forum was created by adoptees, and is owned, administered and moderated by adoptees. 

Our focus is simple: We are here to provide support for the adoptee in the process of dealing with adoption issues.

Some of our members will be pro adoption, some will be anti-adoption, many will fall somewhere in the middle. All posters MUST remember that SUPPORT is the core of this forum, NOT politics. This board was created for the very real individuals dealing with the fall out of adoption in their lives. There are other boards for antis and pros. This is not it.

This forum is based on the ideal that adoptees need a place of their own: to support one another and to learn from one another without having to balance our feelings against other members of the triad. That can be done elsewhere, but here, adoptees are at the center. There is no triad here. 

This forum is the inside of adoption looking out. It starts with US, the children of adoption, now adults, with voices that need to be heard and words that we need to speak. 

We acknowledge wounds and scars here. We acknowledge loss and grief here.

While we acknowledge being adoptees to be our common thread, we also acknowledge that adoptees have different depths of feeling and ways of dealing with our adoption. We want to be able to support adoptees regardless of their political or personal views of adoption and expect that the members and posters will respect their fellow adoptees in ALL stages of their growth. 


Rules of Engagement

1. Who We are - We are a peer to peer help group. We are not a professional counseling or therapy group.

2. Confidentiality - everything shared here is confidential and is not to leave the forum (individuals may give permission to use one of their post. Permission is given for a specific post, only).

3. Share feelings and experiences. Share advice only when solicited.

4. Responsibility - all members share the responsibility to make the forum work.

5. Acceptance - accept members just as they are, and avoid making judgments.

6. Sharing - sharing is encouraged, but not required.

Terms Of Service

1. Membership is for Adoptees only.

2. Members in violation of these terms of service may be denied access. Entries in violation of these terms will immediately be removed.

3. Members who violate the Rules of Engagement will be first warned, and should this continue, they will be banned.

4. No Solicitation for any product or service is allowed. If you have an adoption related request, ask Administrative Staff before posting.

5. No questionnaires, surveys, etc. are allowed. No information or writings on this forum may be used outside this forum without express permission in writing. Note: members may generate questionnaires for internal use, but may not export the results.

6. Everything that is written here stays here. Anyone caught violating this rule without permission of original poster will be banned.

7. We do not allow political views that are unrelated to the adoptee’s experience.

8. Anything posted on this site should be considered as temporary. If you wish to protect it, do so by saving it elsewhere.